Hello everyone!!! After yet another break I’m back! We had a wonderful thanksgiving. My husband was able to visit us for the weekend and I had to cherish every second we had together. Then the day he left I got sick! I’m finally getting over this cold, thank god.
Right now I want to talk about the lovely month that is December. There’s something magical about it. All of a sudden on December 1st a wave of magic comes over all of the little children that were brats all year and turns them into little saints. It’s magic right?? No.
Why is it that just because it’s Christmas we have taught our children that you really only need to be good for a month? Why do we go into debt, take out loans, stress ourselves out because of Christmas? Because we have taught our children there is a jolly old man with unlimited resources that will bring them everything they ask for. We have set ourselves up for failure. Of course it’s fun to see the little ones light up when they see Santa at the mall, I’m not denying that. But what do we do when we can’t afford a big extravagant Christmas? I’m debating on letting our kids know the truth about Santa this year.
With my husband stationed in Florida we are pretty much stretched to our max. I don’t want to let my kids down but when a 7 year old starts asking for an iPad or cell phone like all her little friends at school I think it’s time. I think children need to know that for one, Christmas isn’t about how many presents you get, and some times mommy and daddy can’t afford to give you everything you WANT. My kids in no way go without. They have more than they need. I think that’s what got me thinking about this. Last year we went all out for our kids, and they haven’t touched a thing since then! This year we are doing the 3 gift approach. Like the 3 wise men brought to baby Jesus. I told them if 3 gifts is good enough for Jesus then it’s good enough for you! I think it’s the right time for my oldest daughter to know about Santa. Of course the two year old won’t understand. I’m not going to shout out ” Santa isn’t real!” Lol but I will sit her down and let her know that mommy and daddy are Santa. I always knew my parents were my “santa” and I didn’t have to go to therapy because of it. It actually made appreciate everything I got more. I knew my parents took their hard earned money to buy me things and that made it really important to me.
Now for the part I think people will have a problem with. If your child has been a brat all year long why do you feel obligated to buy them Christmas presents? If they don’t deserve it any other time of the year what difference does Christmas morning make? I think that’s a good way to raise an entitled adult. It shows them they can act however they want and still be rewarded for it! I think this ties in with them knowing the truth about Santa. Of course no one wants their child to wake up on Christmas morning and run to an empty tree. So instead of being the Grinch tell them they will be giving for Christmas. Bake cookies take them to a nursing home, make goody bags for the homeless. Have them volunteer at a soup kitchen, that is really what this season is about. I’ll be doing it with my kids and I hope they truly understand how important it is. At church the girls got to put together shoeboxes with presents for children who weren’t as fortunate as them and I’m so happy they did. My 7 year old told me all about it and she wanted to give some of her toys to these kids, that made me extremely proud.
So to sum up this extremely long post…show your kids the TRUE meaning of Christmas. We already live in a world full of entitled people don’t create another one.